Tag: God hates me

Stop Keeping Her in the Dark

By Eddie Capparucci, MA, LPC

Sitting on the couch in my counseling office, Sondra wore a blank expression on her face staring off into space but her mind was racing with thoughts about her husband Dennis. When I asked her what she was thinking about she quickly rattled off a list of worries and concerns. depressed-woman

“Why would he do this to our family?”

“What is going on in his head? Is he still thinking about them?”

“How do I know he will not do something like this again?”

“Is he learning anything about himself that will help him change?” Continue reading “Stop Keeping Her in the Dark”

3 Reasons Why Men Lack Sexual Integrity

The number one question I receive from a wife or girlfriend of a sex addict is “why did he do this to me?”. Women are baffled that men who claim they are in love can engage in sexual activity that demonstrates little regard for the them or the relationship.  man-in-dark[1]

So why do men lack sexual integrity. Is it simply that they are pigs? Are they completely self-absorbed and self-centered individuals who think only of their own gratification and needs? In some cases, that is definitely true. There are many men who were raised in environments in which they developed a sense of entitlement and focus mostly on the fulfillment of their own needs and desires. But not all men who suffer from sexual integrity issues can be lumped into this category. Continue reading “3 Reasons Why Men Lack Sexual Integrity”

Hello My Name is…

What identifies you? Is it your job? Is it the college you went to? Is it your status in the community or church? Or perhaps it is something from your past. Maybe it’s an abusive experience that you replay in your mind again and again. imagesC1X298BJ

These tragic memories never seem to fade away but instead continue to haunt you until they become part of your internal fabric that you wear every day. Or perhaps it’s a series of lies you have come to believe that are part of your identity. Lies such as: “I’m not that smart.” “I’m not attractive.” “I am unlovable.” “I am worthless.” “People never like me.” Continue reading “Hello My Name is…”

Enslaved to Sexual Sin or Enslaved to God?

Jack sat in my office crying. His 3-year marriage was falling apart as his wife threatened to file for divorce due to his continuous pornography addiction.  “I can’t believe I am so close to losing the woman I love,” he told me. “But trying to stop looking at pornography is so difficult. I have no control over it.”  handcuffs-921290_1920
Jack was correct in recognizing that breaking an addiction to pornography is not easy. However, it was incorrect when he said “I have no control over it”. Each time Jack views pornography he makes a decision to remain enslaved to sin. He decides his need for self-centered pleasure is more important than his relationship with his wife or God.
For Jack to win his battle against pornography he needs to make a radical decision to stop being enslaved to sin and instead become enslaved to God. Continue reading “Enslaved to Sexual Sin or Enslaved to God?”

What are you Sowing?

Charlie got caught. And that is why he sits on my couch trying to figure out how to pick up the pieces of his life that he discarded through his selfish actions. The husband of 13 years and father of two had been carrying on a four-year affair with a co-worker. Several days ago, the co-worker’s husband found out and told Charlie’s wife. She has since kicked him out of the house and has retained a attorney to begin divorce proceedings.   alone-62253_1280

As you can imagine, Charlie is sadden and afraid. He doesn’t want to lose his wife. He doesn’t want to be a part-time father. He doesn’t want to live alone. But what Charlie is facing are the pending consequences of his actions. Continue reading “What are you Sowing?”

Radio Interview: Developing Sexual Integrity

Below is a link to an interview I did with Attitudes of Sexual Integrity podcast. The interview focuses on how sexual addictions development and steps to take to change a man’s heart. You can skip by the first 4 minutes of so, which is simply introduction before the interview begins. I hope this information is a first step in getting you closer to living with sexual integrity.

ASI247.org podcast interview on developing sexual integrity