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4th Annual ‘No Lust For Lent’ Initiative

By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CSAS, CPCS

Men, once again it’s time to make a real sacrifice. Are you done talking about making changes regarding your sexual struggles? Are you tired of the repeated failures? If so, then join the crusade and pledge to learn to successfully manage your pornography and sexual addiction.

Wednesday, March 6 kicks off our fourth annual “No Lust for Lent” crusade, where men are asked to stop watching pornography and/or engaging in destructive sexual behaviors. Efforts in the past three years have been met with great enthusiasm and successful outcomes.  overcoming-lust-logo-435x150

“I decided last year to try and stop watching porn and masturbating,” said Carl, a 35-year-old who is married with two children. “Midway through the 40 days I decided to start working with a sex-addiction counselor and I later joined a support group. It was a great decision.”

“I had struggled with porn since I was 10,” said Alex who is a senior in college. “Last year I saw this on Twitter and decided to give it a try. It was great, and I will be praying throughout Lent that other men join this effort and free themselves of pornography.”

Removing lust from our lives allows us to experience freedom from shame and guilt that affects our self-worth. It also helps us to stop hurting those we love who feel betrayed by our actions.

“Everyday I see the consequences that result from a sexual and pornography addiction,” says Eddie Capparucci, a certified sexual addiction counselor with a private practice in Marietta, GA. “It not only brings shame to the men who engage in the behaviors but destroys relationships; ruins careers; and corrupts children by teaching them to objectify and degrade women. Some men believe their addiction is a life sentence, but that is not the way it has to be.

“The Give Up Lust for Lent Crusade is an excellent stepping stone to get men on the right track of recovery,” he continued. “There are many programs and services available to help men and their families who have been impacted by the addiction. In developing and implementing a well-prepared treatment plan, men can learn to manage their addiction successfully. But the first step is taking action.”

Men and women are being asked to show their support for “No Lust for Lent” by commenting on Twitter using the #NoLustForLent hashtag.

Christian pastors are also encouraged to ask their church members to participate in supporting the “No Lust for Lent” Crusade by speaking from the pulpit about the destruction of pornography.

 

 

 

Give Up For Lent

By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CCSAS

Every year the conversation in our home surrounding what to sacrifice for Lent is pretty entertaining. Each individual throws out an idea, while other family members counter argue why they believe it is not a true sacrifice. It’s always the usual list including sweets, bread, or electronics. In reality, all are good ideas and serve the purpose of denying oneself over a period of 40 days.No Porn Sign

Last year I proposed men make a sacrifice that could have long-term and healthy outcomes for themselves and their relationships.

“Give up Lust for Lent.” Continue reading “Give Up For Lent”

Let Her Throw Rocks

Let Her Throw Rocks

By Eddie Capparucci, MA, LPC
One of the most tragic aspects of a sexual addiction is the emotional pain our insensitive and self-absorbed actions cause to our innocent partner. They are the unfortunate ones who get tangled in our web of deceit and are made to pay a large price for our destructive behavior. Rocks in bucket

It breaks my heart the first time a couple sits across from me in a counseling session and I listen to the wife or girlfriend describe her anguish and frustration in trying to understand why the man she thought loved her with all his heart could crush her world through his wicked infidelity. I see in their eyes their internal struggle to contemplate how they will ever be able to recover from the betrayal and learn to trust and love again. What makes it more heartbreaking is when they start to question what they could have done differently to prevent him from acting out. Continue reading “Let Her Throw Rocks”