Age Verification to prevent children under the age of 18 from accessing online pornography is set for rollout in the UK. The House of Lords approved the final piece of legislation relating to guidance for the new UK Age Verification system this week (Dec. 11, 2018), with final sign-off from the House of Commons poised. Enforcement is anticipated to begin in early 2019.
Here are some common questions and issues that are being raised.
Continue reading “War on Porn Steps Up”
By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CCSAS
Every year the conversation in our home surrounding what to sacrifice for Lent is pretty entertaining. Each individual throws out an idea, while other family members counter argue why they believe it is not a true sacrifice. It’s always the usual list including sweets, bread, or electronics. In reality, all are good ideas and serve the purpose of denying oneself over a period of 40 days.
Last year I proposed men make a sacrifice that could have long-term and healthy outcomes for themselves and their relationships.
“Give up Lust for Lent.” Continue reading “Give Up For Lent”
Sometimes it is difficult to determine if someone is dealing with a sexual addiction. A man who views pornography a couple times a year may be acting inappropriately and hurting intimacy between him and his wife, but it doesn’t mean he is a sex addict.
A sexual addiction is diagnosed when sexual activity has a negative impact and effect on other parts of a person’s life including relationships, finances, health, safety, employment, and/or relationship with God.
The following is a brief assessment to help you get an initial read if you are indeed struggling with a sexual addiction. Check each one that applies to you.
Does your mind wander with sexual thoughts throughout the day?
Do you spend more than 4 hours a week viewing pornography or engaging in sexual chat/video rooms on the Internet? Continue reading “How to Determine if You are a Sex Addict?”
A window of opportunity is a limited time period that allows us to engage in an opportunity or activity that is not available to us 24-7. Windows of opportunities come up often in the business world where executives must make snap decisions to engage or walk away from prospective deals.
Windows of opportunity also play themselves out with sexual addiction, primarily with the use of pornography and masturbation. Addicts are always looking for what I term “an open window” where they can act out without being caught. Continue reading “Shutting the Porn Window”
By Eddie Capparucci, MA, LPC
Sitting on the couch in my counseling office, Sondra wore a blank expression on her face staring off into space but her mind was racing with thoughts about her husband Dennis. When I asked her what she was thinking about she quickly rattled off a list of worries and concerns.
“Why would he do this to our family?”
“What is going on in his head? Is he still thinking about them?”
“How do I know he will not do something like this again?”
“Is he learning anything about himself that will help him change?” Continue reading “Stop Keeping Her in the Dark”
Another Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and men are busy trying to determine the best gift to give to the special women in their lives. The array of ways to show you care is endless: jewelry, chocolates, flowers, brief getaway, cards, dinner, etc. The holiday serves as a wonderful way to celebrate how much we love our partner.
But then comes the day after Valentine’s Day.
That’s the day when all of the hoopla is just a memory. We will fall back into our routines and busyness. And many men will fall back into their lust for pornography.
Perhaps they had given it up for a day to focus on their wife or girlfriend. But now it’s the day after Valentine’s Day and time to return to the ugly habit that dishonors and objectifies women. It’s time once again to engage in selfishness that will break hearts if they should discover what takes place behind closed doors.
Maybe instead of a traditional gift this year, you should give your loved one a gift that demonstrates how much you respect her as woman. Commit to beginning the process of working on treating your addiction and removing it from your marriage or relationship. Honor the special woman in our life – which includes your daughter(s) – by taking that brave step of admitting you have a problem and doing something about it.
This Valentine’s Day give her the commitment of bringing purity back into your relationship. If you don’t know how to go about that visit http://www.SexuallyPureMen.com and read what is involved in the process.
This year give her a Valentine’s Day gift that will change yours lives forever. Give her a gift that will make the day after Valentine’s Day the start of something beautiful and meaningful in your relationship.
Eddie Capparucci, MA, LPC is a licensed Christian counselor with a private practice in Marietta, GA. Feel free to re-post and share this article. You can read more of his thoughts at his blogs:
What happens when you are a pastor and you find yourself suffering with a sexual addiction? That is the story of Jason Mahr. Jason, with the proper help, fought and overcame his addiction. Currently he runs a ministry designed to help people become free of pornography, as well as restoring and rebuilding healthy relationships around them. Take a moment to read Jason’s story.
-Eddie Capparucci, MA, LPC
I get asked every day why I started Restoring Minds Consulting (www.restoringminds.org). The reason is very simple, but it isn’t easy or pretty. I used to be a pastor, doing youth ministry and other pastoral roles for the better part of the last 20 years.
Continue reading “From Pastor to Porn to Providence”
If you think pornography is a teenager or adult problem think again. Our children are becoming exposed to sexual images and graphics at an age that is unthinkable. The following is an article written by best-selling author Kimberly Rae who also happens to be a concerned mom. Take a moment as she unveils 10 ways moms can protect their children from pornography.
American children begin viewing pornography at an average age of 11. More than 7 out of 10 teens hide their online behavior from their parents in some way. 35% of boys say they have viewed pornographic videos “too many times to count.” The average age for a boy to be exposed to pornography is 8. I would not have believed that had my husband not told me he was introduced to it by a schoolmate at age 9.
Continue reading “Pornography and the Boys We Love – 10 Tips to Help Moms”